Are you seeking security or adventure?

People often ask: Do you want security, or do you want adventure?

When I was younger, I thought I could have both — never letting go of anything.

I said it with confidence: Only kids make choices. I want both.

But as I walked further down the road, I realized—not every path can be walked twice.

As we grow older, the number of paths we can take begins to narrow.

Time becomes shorter, responsibilities heavier, and the cost of failure higher.

Some choices, once missed, never come back.

But it is precisely because of this that I’ve come to understand:

Security and adventure are not opposing options. They are two states we must learn to balance.

The Tao Te Ching 道德經 says:

“Know the masculine, but keep to the feminine. Be the valley of the world.“

Understand strength, but be willing to hold space for softness and retreat. It’s not about fearing risk, but about knowing what’s truly worth protecting.

When I have loved ones by my side, I find more courage—

but I also become more unwilling to lose.

Through love, I’ve learned to take risks.

Through love, I’ve also learned to protect.

Alone, I might have rushed ahead with no hesitation.

But now, I choose to live with stability—for the ones I hold dear.

As Tao Te Ching 道德經 also says:

“The highest good is like water. Water benefits all things and does not compete.”

Security is the depth of water; adventure is its flow. We move through life like a river—not rushing blindly, nor staying still—but adjusting to the moment, choosing balance at every turn.

Security and adventure are not a choice. They are a path of balance.

Not a compromise, but a form of maturity.

Not hesitation, but calm resolve.

Not giving up on dreams, but knowing when to be still, and when to move.

Love gives me the courage to risk, and the reason to stay safe.